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Two weeks ago, I used this column as a vehicle to write about my depression. Since then, I’ve had the opportunity to listen to a few people share their stories about themselves or their loved ones diagnosed with clinical depression. I want to thank those of you willing to share your experiences with me.

One common, recurring theme with seeking treatment for depression from what I’ve found is that the same form of treatment might not fit exactly with what a person needs.

Depression doesn’t present itself the same way a common cold might n— though depression has been nicknamed the common cold of mental illness. The common cold has symptoms you can sense by touch, taste (if you’re a toddler) or sight.

Depression is much more complex. You could have depression, and still be able to put up a Cheshire cat grin for all to see. No one would know what’s really happening inside of you. Your insides are churning. Your mind is racing. You don’t know how to make it stop.

With a cold, it’s easy. Buy some over-the-counter medicine to slow down your runny nose and stock up on Kleenex to wipe the gunk away when you sneeze or blow your nose.

However, depression isn’t so easy to treat. Sometimes finding the right anti-depressant with the proper dosage dispensed by a doctor that meshes with your personality isn’t easy. The doctor might have to tweak the dosage or change medications for you. As frustrating as it is that things might not be what you want right away, be patient. Getting to the point of successfully managing depression takes time.

As far as doctors go: The first doctor I had prescribe depression medication was a little irreverent when describing certain side effects. Another wanted to try to boost his credibility with me on my first (and only) visit with him by telling me how he dealt with depraved, unrepentant felons and he could help me. Talk about a turnoff.

No doubt, others of you or your loved ones have had similar experiences. But once you find a doctor with whom you can relate, stay with him or her. As the doctor gets to know you better, the better he or she can treat you. At first, I was wildly skeptical about my doctor. As time passed and I began to manage depression on my own, I only have to visit the doctor four times a year. I’m OK with that.

One final note on depression — don’t bottle up your feelings inside of you only to let them explode at a later date. Talk about your feelings with someone you know and trust. Talk with your pastor for spiritual encouragement. Talking about your feelings and emotions will only help you manage your depression all the more.

Columnist Tim Gray, a West Salem resident, can be reached at tim.gray.matter@gmail.com.